The Parable of the Two Dads

    Once upon a time, two dads of children with special needs were walking down the road together. Both of them were raising children who had been diagnosed just a few years ago.   Neither one said very much at first, as they walked along in silence. Both were, in effect, still reeling, still […]

Top 10 Church Myths About Special Needs Ministry

    As I work with churches to help them develop, implement, and vision for special needs ministry, I’m finding there are often many misperceptions or myths about special needs ministry that need addressing and dispelling.   Unfortunately, these myths have so penetrated churches that too many are hesitant or reluctant to do special needs […]

One More Night With The Frogs

photo credit museum.wa.gov.au    The rhythmic croaking was strangely melodious.   I would mentally filter out all the other background noise that flowed out of the woods adjacent to our house. The birds, the crickets, all the other sounds would fade away until I could only hear the frogs.   They croaked in a harmonious […]

A Letter to the Dad in the Red Cap

    If you haven’t seen the video of the father dancing with his wheelchair bound daughter at a pageant, you have to watch this clip here.     Dear dad in the red ball cap,   I just watched a video of you dancing with your daughter with special needs at a pageant. She […]

Yielding My Pen to Greg Lucas

    On Thursday of this week, I make my debut as a writer for 1corinthians13parenting.com. This is an amazingly gifted team of folks who write from a variety of perspectives on parenting. I am joining the team to contribute from the perspective of a father of a son with special needs. Earlier this week, […]

Help Wanted

    Next week another Father’s Day arrives. This will be my 16th as the father of a son with special needs. I was thinking today about all the new dads of children with special needs who will be celebrating their very first Father’s Day this year, and the ones who just received a diagnosis […]

Sometimes Better Follows Worse

    “No deposit, no return.” My father-in-law whispered those words to me as he gave me his daughter’s hand at our wedding. This Sunday will be our 23nd wedding anniversary. Ironically we will spend it leading a marriage retreat for couples raising children with special needs. I don’t know if I believe in love […]

Because Every Day

  My son doesn’t even know that this Sunday is Mother’s Day. His cognitive challenges and developmental disabilities preclude him from even understanding what Mother’s Day is all about. So, by himself, there won’t be any presentation of gifts to his mom. There won’t be any special card he picked out for the occasion. There […]

Special Edition- Teacher Appreciation Week

  My parents were my educational bookends. My mother was my Kindergarten teacher and later when I was in high school, my dad was one of my teachers as well as my basketball coach. That’s why I say they were my educational bookends. I started down the road of my education with one, and concluded […]